Self-discovery

Select a goal.

For exploring your past:

  1. What was I like as a child?

  2. How am I different now than I was a child? How am I the same?

  3. What memories seem to stand out from my childhood?

  4. Who did I trust most during my childhood?

  5. What was I like as a teenager?

  6. What talents or skills did I show at an early age?

  7. What values was I taught as a child that I still hold dear?

  8. What things seemed hard or difficult for me as a child?

  9. How were emotions expressed in my family?

  10. What would I like to say to a past version of myself?

  11. What were my career ambitions when I was younger?

  12. What was my experience like with school and education?

  13. Were there times in my past when I didn’t trust my instinct, and what was the result?

  14. What do I regret the most about my past?

  15. Who from my past deserves my apology? Whose apology do I deserve?

  16. What was a place from the past that made me feel safe and comfortable?

  17. What is the greatest life lesson I’ve learned?

For understanding your present:

  1. How is my life different than how I thought it would turn out?

  2. What is going well in my life right now?

  3. What worries me the most currently?

  4. What would I like to improve about myself, and what three steps can I take to change?

  5. What do I do for self-care?

  6. Which emotions do I experience most often?

  7. Which emotions do I tend to ignore or avoid?

  8. What keeps me awake at night?

  9. What are my most deeply-held values and beliefs?

  10. What are my current goals, and do they match up with my values?

  11. What seems to be missing from my life right now?

  12. What am I most grateful for right now?

  13. What are my strengths?

  14. What are my weaknesses?

  15. What activities cause me to lose track of time?

  16. How do I show kindness to others compared to myself?

  17. What are three things that bring me joy?

  18. What does my perfect day look like?

  19. What is my most self-defeating habit?

  20. What do I like most about myself?

For considering your future:

What are my goals and aspirations for the coming year?

  1. What will be my biggest challenge in the next five years?

  2. Who will be there for me when things get tough?

  3. What is one habit I hope to develop in the future?

  4. What are my fears about growing older?

  5. Write a letter to my future self describing how I will keep them safe and happy.

  6. What three goals would I like to accomplish in the next five years?

  7. Complete this sentence: “My future self will be incomplete without….”

  8. What are five changes I can make to create a better future for myself?

  9. If I have or want children, what do I hope they will learn from me?

  10. Who do I hope is by my side five years from now? 10 years? 30 years?

  11. What do I want to achieve in my life before I die?

  12. How would I like to be remembered?